What if one has been verbally abused, but that abuser is now deceased? Does that person now have to still forgive? This is my response: for your own sake and peace of heart and mind you still must choose to forgive. It would be the same as if someone stole from you. She owes you a debt. She can’t pay that debt. So you choose to have mercy on her and forgive her that debt. You are not forgiving the deed. Only God can forgive the deed. However, you can release her from the debt she owes you. You’ve called for mercy, not justice. You are now set free from the bondage you were under by not forgiving. You can now walk away free. You have given it over to God. The Scripture says that if you do not forgive then He will not forgive you.
If you were found doing wrong, would you rather have justice or mercy? I would choose mercy.